Gnostic: ...I think Brasas has a too negative opinion of the community to create this thread.
We have numerous gifting thread and ... snip.
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I guess it is only human nature to remember the negatives then the positive. ...
Maybe... Most of the forum is great - that counts like 80 / 85% of the whole.
But even in the gifting threads - which otherwise prove how generous the community is - there is enough dirt. And in the political threads, dear lord but things get personal fast...
It is my bias to care more about serious discussion - including of political topics - than about many other parts of the forum. But inside that area of focus, I can give you many examples of the kind of negatives I am trying to get folks to avoid.
And they are negatives. For example, one very very big one, is a huge blindspot: The derailing via joking.
In real life if a number of people are trying to have a serious conversation, and others come in and start cracking jokes intending very clearly to drown out the conversation - that is dismissive even if well intentioned. It is disrespectful. Fun but still assholery - at least not as bad as making protests in funerals for a reference the US forumers will get.
Free speech is fine, but self restraint is better.
So I don't think I have too negative an opinion. And what happened earlier in the thread is a perfect example of some of the negative dynamics that I see too often. This thread did turn to shit. Personal dislikes and irreverence contributing to a playground like situation - I tried like hell to turn it around, and to some extend succeeded with others help (like you - you are one of the calmest and most respectful people around, and a big thank you for that), but that smell lingers.
Let's call it a privilege that the corners of GOG I frequent seem to so often provide such examples... even if those places are only 5% of the whole. Imagine how fortunate and happy I feel about that.