keeveek: Exactly the opposite. At least
I treat a person as an honorary gentleman / lady as long as there is no proof on the contrary.
WTF "earn honor" even mean? You either are honorary person or you're not. I asume a person is honorary as long as he or she doesn't do non honorary thing. Maybe you meant "trust is earned" - that's true.
But I don't need to trust a random person on a gaming forum to accept his apology. No i meant honor is earned, you might not realise it but you weigh people's honor differently by the experiences you have with them, this might no be as obviuse to you with honor as it is with trust but it's basicly the same effect.
The shortcut is naturally some1 you trust vouching for them.
On the "you're either a honorary person or your not" issue i will ask you a question: is there only 2 grades of honor in your world? (meaning "honorful" and "not honorful")
In my world there is 10s of thousands of grades, both in the possitive side and the negative side, honor is both increased and deteriorated by the actions of zed person.
If what you say is true and every1 you meet is seen as "honorful" by yourself then the expression in practice has no meaning at all, seeing as an "honorful" person to you is basicly the same as "a neutral/unknown person" to me.
Meaning if you were to vouch for someone being "honorful" that would be the same as me saying "i have no idea about this person" do you see the issue I have with your view?
keeveek: He said he's sorry (honorary thing) and didn't do anything that would make a stain on that image or to suspect he's lying (non honorary thing).
It's not honorary in my book to just say your sorry, but thats is 100% subjective I suppose, in my world to truely do honor on your wrongs you'd have to make up for them.
I also think saying "oh he's applogized and he haven't done something for 3 WHOLE DAYS!" is a bit of a overdramatization of the issue. Time defeats all.
keeveek: If you want to treat every person as a deceptive bastard, you are free to go. But it's probably hard to live that way.
Thanks for projecting such a nice personality upon me, that's really constructive for the discussion.
I treat the people who does wrong as people who's done wrong, if you want to judge me for not having selective memory then go ahead i suppose, but do not presume to "know" that i do this to everyone, I happend to have the ability to remember the people who does wrong and the people who doesn't.
keeveek: a man is worth as much as his word - it works after the word is said, not before.
btw. the person you couldn't "forgive" already left this forum, so there's no reason to discuss this further.
Yet again I disagree, this isn't a matter of 1 person any longer it's a matter of how to deal with similar situations.