I'm not sure what the legal situation in Finland is, but in the US, marriage is mostly about population control. I'm personally convinced that marriage isn't typically a good deal for either party.

And because the government feels so strongly about it, many states have "common law" marriages or equivalents that declare people to be married after a period of time living together. Granted it's a long time, but folks who live together for that long and aren't married aren't typically forgetting to get married.

Think that's bad? Try being put in the "friend zone" via email and then having her pretending the whole situation never happened whenever you spend time with her in person. It's great fun.

Sorry to bump, but this kinda happened to me today. Basically my first experience with dating, though things were going well/found myself becoming more attracted to her, then while walking she comes out with the truth - she didn't mean to lead me on, but really doesn't want a relationship right now, as she feels they're a waste of time and emotions. She still wanted to have lunch together, though, but I tried to politely tell her that I was not comfortable with this.

She's still a sweet girl, but boy I wish she had just been honest from the start. Based on past crushes that "crushed" me I've at least learned to somewhat deal with the mental depression that comes seemingly the day after. But I'm not sure I'm doing it the right way. :P Oh well, I suppose on the positive side, the chance that this could have lead to something more made me become a little more responsible, even if it was basically just vacuuming my dorm room and trimming my finger nails.

Friendzones, friendzones everywhere. I'm guessing it's the way of the future.

It's ridiculous how our current generation for some reason won't use duct tape, rohypnol and secret basements when trying to have relationships. I bet Josef Fritzl was never friendzoned in his life.